My Only Wedding Day Regret | Connecticut Wedding Photographer Lauryn Alisa Photography
My wedding was amazing. My husband and I decided against a big, Long Island wedding bash and ended up planning a destination wedding in St. Thomas, USVI. We were married with our toes in the sand next to the turquoise blue water and 35 of our closest friends and family there to witness. It was perfect!
Right after we got married I would have told you I had zero regrets from my big day. Now, having been in the wedding industry for over four years and experiencing too many weddings to count, when I look back at my own wedding there was one thing I wish I had done differently. I wish that Mike and I had shared a first look before walking down the aisle.
I know, I know, of course I'm going to say that; wedding photographers LOVE first looks. While a benefit to having a first look is that you can get some photos done before the ceremony which makes your wedding photographer’s job easier, as a bride it would've been a wonderful experience to share with my husband.
My initial reaction to the first look was no way! I envisioned that moment as I stood at the top of the aisle and my fiancé saw me for the first time. It was the only thing I cared about. Now, looking back at the day, that moment is filled with more than just us. My dad and mom were by my side and all our guests were watching. While it was special, there were so many other things going on at the same time and I didn’t get to focus on that moment the way I wanted to. If Mike and I had decided to do a first look, it would have been private, just the two of us, with no other distractions. He would be able to see me for the first time, but I would also be able to hug him, talk to him, find out what he was thinking. The nerves would have disappeared and we would have a moment to cherish forever.
So if you’re on the fence about a first look, my advice is always to do it. Not because of all the logistical benefits, but because it’s a moment you will never regret sharing with your soon to be husband or wife! <3